I’ve heard a lot about Brene Brown from my wife and from other people in our church community. Until this past week, my only experience of her ideas was this video of her TedX talk, which taught me a lot about the importance of being vulnerable and how that allows us to move past shame.
Last Thursday on my drive to Guitar Center, I started listening to one of her books titled Daring Greatly. Then today I listened to a few more chapters on my way to and back from Portland. I’m in chapter 5 of 12 and already this book is changing my life and allowing me to dispel shame simply by putting words to it. I am learning so much from her. Here’s a sentence that really stuck out to me: “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like Courage.”
Another Brene Brown book that I’ve heard good things about is Rising Strong. I’ll move to that one after I get through Daring Greatly. Lots of time on the road, perfect for listening and learning. Andi Duli refers to his car as his university on wheels. I’m using my car that way too. I’m getting smarter by the mile, or at least becoming more vulnerable.
“Do More of what you love, less of what you tolerate, and none of what you hate” — John Assaraf.
When I first read that statement, I thought, that’s not realistic. You can’t live that way. Everybody has to do some things they hate, right?
I can’t explain it, but these days I find myself doing none of what I hate doing, less of what I tolerate, and more doors opening up with amazing people inviting me to come do what I love to do in their community!
I think Grace is amazing, and Favor is beyond explaining, and I think those are available to everyone. But why do some of us believe and step in, while others of us remain skeptical? I was skeptical and scared for years.
There are still times (like this morning) when I’m afraid that the dreams in my heart are too outlandish. But with every new door that opens, I believe a little bit more that it is the Father’s good pleasure to give us the Kingdom. And that’s not a spiritualized deferment for a heavenly place to come. I’m talking about life and Joy and Excitement and Enthusiasm right here, right now.
Ironic that I’m writing this at this moment, since this is a mindset I had to fight for today. I spoke promises and affirmations and declarations until my mind was right. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Let this mind be in you that was in Christ. Say what you need to say until you believe enough to come alive.
Believe again if you must. There is a great deal of difference between still believing something and believing it again.
I highly recommend The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by Dr. John C. Maxwell. Whatever your industry, I believe the information in this book will equip you to reach higher levels of success.
I’m in an intense growth mode right now. Where do I begin?
I’ve been growing incrementally over the past several years simply because of the people with whom I’ve been associated. This year I made a decision to grow exponentially. Why? Because I desire an exponential increase of results in several areas of my life, and for my results to grow, I must grow.
I resonate with the concepts Dr. Maxwell expresses. I was so excited to hear him speak live in Houston a couple months ago, and when offered the opportunity, I promptly enrolled in a 12-week video course by Dr. Maxwell highlighting each of the 15 Laws.
Today I’m submitting for your consideration the paradigm shift from Goal-Consciousness to Growth-Consciousness.
How are they different?
1. Goal-Consciousness focuses on a destination whereas Growth-Consciousness focuses on the journey.
2. Goal-Consciousness stops when the goal is reached, but Growth-Consciousness keeps you growing past the goal.
3. Goal-Consciousness is seasonal or temporary; Growth-Consciousness is a lifelong pursuit.
4. Goals challenge us, while Growth changes us.
5. Goals motivate us and others, but Growth Matures us and others.
One mindset is about something you accomplish; the other about someone you become.
Make a commitment to grow intentionally. It’s absolutely worth it.
At the end of each year, I take inventory and evaluate how I did against the goals I set at the beginning of that year. I learned from a mentor the 4-step magic of Plan, Do, Check, Adjust. I repeat that cycle at varying levels of intensity with weekly, monthly and annual targets.
Often out of that year-end process will emerge a word or concept that I feel led to focus on in the year ahead. My word this year is DECLARATION.
I have observed a different 4-step process to this point.
One leads to the other. Hearing leads to believing. You can believe quietly for a while, but if you keep on hearing and hearing, then belief fills up and overflows from your lips. The force and emotion of the overflow is the difference between confessing and declaring. I have for a few years now been confessing promises I hold on to, repeating them quietly and almost apologetically as if to reassure myself. Eventually belief reaches another critical tipping point. I now find myself declaring God’s promises with motion and emotion.
A higher degree of urgency, on a platform of deeper trust. Now more fully assured of His goodness I speak with greater authority from a place of larger calm.
I must thank my friend Becky George for sharing this video tool with me. In my encounter with this video, I went through the 4 stages, just more quickly. As I listened, belief grew until I quietly read along with the video. These days I’m on my feet, reading loudly and much faster than the video, declaring entire sections from memory, gesturing with my arms, eyes flashing…
I don’t blog much, pronounced “at all,” anymore, because I’m too busy living life to sit down and write about it.
Wait, that’s not entirely true. I don’t have time to sit and write the perfect, well-thought-out, highly-impacting, carefully-crafted piece that I would like to deliver. So instead I write nothing, since it can’t be perfectly planned and executed with brilliance. Does that ever stop you? Can’t do it perfectly so you don’t do it at all?
My challenge to myself this year is to stop and share an insight in the most polished form that I can muster inside of 10 minutes. The point is that even an unfinished thought expressed carries more power than a perfect thought unfired.
This is taking me to a song I learned when I was but a wee lad (who says that?). I think this off-the-cuff writing may reveal far too much about me, and now it is too late — the ship has sailed, the train is rolling.
Here’s that song that I learned over 30 years ago, and it made such an impression that 3 decades later I don’t need to look up the lyric, it’s still written on my heart:
Brighten the Corner
Do not wait until some deeds of greatness you may do
We have a guest worship leader at CHCC this week, Megan English and her sister Lindsay, both excellent musicians, with a beautiful vocal harmony that comes from spending years together.
Tonight before rehearsal she gave a 20 minute teaching from 2 Cor 3:16. To worship is to turn your face toward God and when you do so, any veil/facade/mask you might be wearing is removed and you step into the promise of verse 17, the freedom found in His presence. Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom (2 Cor 3:17)
The team for Sunday did a marvelous job getting the songs together. We also tried something new this week. Everyone else who is not on Sunday’s team, formed an offstage team that rehearsed together unplugged and acoustic at that the same time as the team that was onstage and plugged in. Megan’s directions were followed by both teams so in essence, two teams were being trained at the same time.
This is effective and efficient. Good idea. We’ll keep doing that.
Joy, Love, Music, Hope — We did not come here to just survive